About Louise Behiel
Hi, my name is Louise Behiel and I’m the founder of Crossroads of Life Coaching. Welcome.
Are You Ready to Move From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be?
Have you spent years in a place you knew wasn’t right for you but stayed anyways for all sorts of reasons? Good reasons. Income, security, retirement, kids, housing, fear…pick yours and if it’s not on this list, feel free to add it. Whatever the reason, I can identify.
Getting stuck in a situation in life is insidious. It’s all encompassing, affecting many areas of our lives. Remember, we all do it, even though it’s frustrating and sometimes humiliating. But if you’re stuck right now, the only question you have to answer is: “Do you want to free yourself and move on?” It’s an easy question but it often raises our concerns to the level of terror and keeps us stuck in that same place.
How do I know?
After twenty years working as a therapist, I’ve seen it repeatedly. And I lived it. So let me begin by telling you a bit of my story, because I’ve been where you are.
At sixteen, I met and fell in love with a charming man whose nickname could have been ‘Smiley’. He was fun and gentle and loved me. It was a match made in heaven. You see, I came from one of ‘those’ homes and I knew this man was a special gift just for me. A month after my eighteenth birthday, we got married, and in the next seven years we had three children.
My Life was Rich and Blessed but Something Was Missing.
By our tenth anniversary, I knew the marriage wasn’t feeding my soul. I had evolved and changed and grown up, but he was the same fun-loving guy I’d married. However, when I looked around, I saw a lot of women in worse situations than mine, so I decided to focus on what was right with him and with us and carry on.
I got a degree in Business Administration and got a job and began building a career. Another decade passed and again, I was conscious of my own loneliness in the relationship but he was (and is) a steady worker, a good provider and a decent human being. Everybody likes him, which mean that obviously the problem is me. I took myself to therapy and did my own work (and there was lots).
And I kept busy. I worked full time, raised three kids, had a multitude of volunteer positions and still managed to attend University full time as I got another degree! (Yes, you read that right.)
In spite of all my busyness, I couldn’t do anything about the marriage because…well I just couldn’t split up our family. Then I got laid off from my job, and my therapy practice wasn’t big enough to support me and all three of our almost adult children.
Until one day, I looked in the mirror and knew it was time. Either I fixed the problem in the relationship or died emotionally. There was nothing wrong with him. He was a great guy (and still is). But I was dying of loneliness and I knew I couldn’t distract myself from these issues a moment longer. When I talked to him about my feelings, he heaved a sigh of relief and said he’d felt the same.
And so we agreed to part. I had no job, a fledgling therapy practice and had never had a room of my own, let alone a house, but I was going to strike out in the world as a single woman at the age of forty eight.
It was the scariest and best thing I’ve ever done. I’ve never looked back.
In the years since:
I’ve lived alone but never felt a moment’s loneliness.
I’ve discovered wells of strengths and resourcefulness I never knew I had.
I’ve traveled and worked and played and enjoyed the days for what they are.
Most of all, I have relished knowing that I took action and created the perfect life for me.
If you can identify and are ready for a change, download my ebook and begin the process of healing. And then, if you’d like to find the same kind of freedom, please contact me for a consultation. No heavy sales pitches, just a conversation to see if we can work together successfully. I’d love to hear from you.
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